Dan’s father died (may he rest in peace) and I was chatting with Vani. We were agreeing on how to meet each other so we could go to the wake. She started saying some things that she shouldn’t do, like go near the casket, or to not even go to the wake at all, because she wasn’t a relative. And then she had to know the Chinese Zodiac sign of the father so she could bring something. There was also something like she had to go to the wake at a specific date. She shouldn’t go straight home after going to the wake.
I told her that maybe she could stay outside the door if she really wants to avoid it and I would call Dan to meet her outside the door, and she said “Wouldn’t that be disrespectful?”
And then we talked a little about the difficulties of having different cultures. We live in the same country but we have so many traditions and cultures. Things we can’t do in the Chinese Culture could be perfectly alright with the rest of the Filipinos, and some things you can’t do in the Filipino culture that you can’t do with the pure-blooded Chinese .
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